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When you’re abroad, the number of people that you meet while travelling are almost innumerable, but the people that you will build lasting relationships with and maintain contact with are a select few. Once in awhile, you meet a very special soul that you connect with on a level above the rest. However, as nomads, whether you were lucky enough to spend some significant time developing a relationship with this person, or if you were only able to share one fleeting moment of magic but were able to exchange contact information, you now find yourself in a long distance relationship (LDR) due to the fact that you move around so frequently.
Some people are unable to grasp the concept of long distance relationships, supporting the argument that humans need their partner to be present and that it’s unnatural to have a LDR. But with the incredible advancements in technology, the Internet has made it possible for long distance relationships to survive at a much higher rate than they used to. Thanks to programs like Skype, Viber, What’s App (and of course the internet as a whole) we are able to connect with our loved ones no matter how far away they may be.
As a veteran of long distance relationships, here is a list of the pros and cons of being in a LDR, that anyone who has experienced the torture and bliss of LDRs will understand.
Time zones
Pro
Waking up to a text from your loved one because they woke up 4 hours ahead of you since they are in the future.
Con
Not being able to find an appropriate time to talk because the time difference is so obscure.
Availability
Pro
Since you don’t have your significant other to distract you in person, you can spend time hanging out with your friends and meeting new people.
Con
You still end up huddled in your room with your computer, devoting large chunks of time to Skype sessions for hours.
Sleeping
Pro
You have the whole bed to yourself! No one to steal the blankets or to keep you awake snoring.
Con
Missing the warm cuddles that you share with your special someone as you intertwine into together. (Also, depending on your time zone situation, you might not be sleeping very much if you are staying awake chatting till 5:00 am)
Pro
You can see what your partner is up to in their daily life without them having to divulge every detail.
Con
You can see what your partner is up to in their daily life and now they had better divulge every detail (Who’s that good looking person next to you in all these photos?)
Buying Plane Tickets
Pro
You get to take a trip somewhere different and you get to see your special someone once you get there!
Con
Airline prices have gone up in the past few years, so hopefully you’ll be alternating with who has to afford the tickets each time. Either way, you’ll probably end up fairly broke most of the time.
Birthdays
Pro
Sending the most excellent birthday package complete with their favourite candies, sweet notes and the most perfect present that you have been planning for months and getting to watch their excitement as they open it on Skype.
Con
Not being able to celebrate in person.
Skype
Pro
A way that we can see each other and talk, thank you to whoever invented video calling!
Con
“Can you hear me?” “You’re frozen, call me back.” “Can you hear me now?” “Just message it to me, I can’t understand you.” The perpetual battle of frozen pixelated video, bad audio, lagging video and audio and the torturous process that is trying to Skype your significant other.
Work
Pro
You can focus on work without the distraction or physical commitments of having your partner in the same place as you. Time to focus and hustle!
Con
You still end up day dreaming about them for a good majority of the day, thinking about what time it is, whether they have finished with work, if they’re about to text you, etc.
Time Till You Reunite
Pro
Each day is another day to improve yourself until you see your special someone.
Con
Time moves extremely slow as you count down every single second until you see them.
Trust
Pro
In order for the LDR to work, you must establish a solid level of trust with your partner. And by solid, unbreakable undeniable fortress of trust is more accurate. But if your trust can last through an LDR, you can bet that your relationship is one of the strongest around.
Con
Trust can be difficult to earn, build and maintain and not being able to see the person face to face or spend time with them on a daily basis does not help.
Communication
Pro
Communication is all you have, so you will not only get a heap of practice, but you will be able to discover new techniques that work well, while spending time getting to know each other by communicating openly.
Con
Everyone has different communication methods, and sometimes they don’t all mesh that well. Oh there’s a language barrier too? Good luck.
Daily Conversations
Pro
Keeping your partner in the loop about what’s going on in your life allows them to feel included in your daily existence. Little details and anecdotes are important as they allow you to connect despite the lack of presence.
Con
If you’re living a fairly routine existence, conversations have the potential to fall into an equation of my day, your day, I love you and I miss you.
Watching Romance in Public or in Media
Pro
When you see someone else kissing, hugging or simply being loved, you are filled with butterflies because you are thinking about how amazing it will feel when you get to experience that with your own loved one.
Con
It is absolute torture waiting till you can experience that comforting affection again. You immediately walk away or turn off the images.
Planning
Pro
Because you have so much to look forward to, your planning skills have become exceptional with regards to affording plane tickets, time management and even being prepared with a birthday care package and planning how far in advance you need to send it so that it arrives on time.
Con
Your planning can get out of hand, as you plan your visits and everything you’re going to do once you get there, that your relationship and life seems to lack that freedom and spontaneity that makes life interesting.
Phone Dependence
Pro
You always have your phone with you in case your partner messages, calls or tries to set up a time to communicate. Especially when sleeping.
Con
You ALWAYS have your phone with you; in fact you are so glued to your phone that your friends and family are a little worried.
Creativity
Pro
You’ll have to harness your creativity to think of new ways to communicate, to express your love and to make the relationship work.
Con
Sometimes you just want to be able to sit with your partner, and not have to think about anything but just being next to them.
Reunion
Pro
That first hug/kiss is so fulfilling and you rare very clearly reminded why you went through all that torturous time apart.
Con
You have to be apart for the reunion to happen in the first place, and as we all know, an LDR is no easy matter.
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